“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
― Abraham Lincoln
The importance of positive thinking is insurmountable. Positive thinking can make or break you, and each given day will feel blessed with the right frame of mind.
For example; if you’re stuck in traffic and late for a meeting but you see it as being held up, you will undoubtedly feel miserable, rushed, and irritated. However if you take that time to go over your notes, or meditate and see it as an opportunity to enjoy yourself (turn up that beat and sing along) then the time will seem to pass faster and you will go into your meeting late but smiling and confident.
There are many ways to keep your thoughts going in a positive direction. It does take time to learn if you were previously pessimistic but with a little effort you can make it happen. Start by using positive affirmations. This can be done when you wake up in the morning, by looking in the mirror and telling yourself how beautiful or handsome you are, how well you are going to do today and that you are proud of yourself and where you stand in this journey of life. You can repeat these positive affirmations any time you need to.
It is important to flip negative statements into positive opportunities. What we allow ourselves to think about in the day to day becomes our way of being. So if you think that you are not good enough, you will never feel good enough. Your confidence will be low and people will not take you as seriously, and therefore it will appear that you in fact are not good enough. So stop that! You are doing the best that you can in that moment with the tools that you have and you are enough.
Learn to take a compliment. It will happen once in a while, where somebody pays you a compliment. Choosing to take it with grace and a pleasant “thank you” will keep you from absorbing your own negative thoughts about yourself. Let the self affirmation inspired by others sink in.
Additionally, surround yourself with only positive people. It is very difficult to stay positive if you surround yourself with miserable people! We absorb bits and pieces of our environment both physically and emotionally. This can be a difficult life change as you need to really evaluate who in your life will lift you up, and who is dragging you down. If a friendship no longer serves you then it might be time to cut the ties and move on. This is a big step to take but an important one.
Along with absorbing the negativity or optimism of others, the same can be said for social media. In a world full of war, famine, poverty and violence it is no question why cases of depression are on the rise. While it is important to be informed, you need to remember that you will not solve the world’s problems in a single night with a single person. If you really want to do something positive, gather like minded people around you and make it happen. In the mean time, find something happy and uplifting to watch that inspires you.