Be it a co-worker, a loved one, a friend, a family member or just an acquaintance; everybody needs to feel special once in a while.
One of the easiest but most often overlooked ways to make somebody feel special or important is to actively listen. This means that your body is directed towards the person talking to you, you’re making eye contact, you are quiet and you ask them appropriate questions in the discussion. Few people know how to really listen anymore and often this is all it takes to make somebody feel that they are special. When you are engaged in the conversation, they know that you are there, listening and caring about what they have to say.
There is actually an art to giving proper compliments. Many people give compliments but they are not received well because they are general and generic. “You’re beautiful” doesn’t actually say anything personal about the one you are trying to compliment and so it is easily brushed away. Put details in the compliment. For example, telling somebody that their eyes are a spectacular color especially when they smile, will let the person know that you’re actually paying attention. It sounds genuine and is specific to them.
Do Something Thoughtful
Offering to help out a friend will do wonders in making them feel special and appreciated. You get it; their life is busy and hectic. Offering to run to the store for them when they are sick or picking up their favourite magazine and chocolate bar “just because” will lift their spirits and leave them feeling loved.
Make Time for Them
Sometimes people can get caught up in the daily grind, and friendships start to fade. Finding a way to clear your busy schedule and making time to spend with somebody will help them understand that you want to be in their lives. You can take them out to lunch, or bring lunch to them. Stop by with a movie rental and popcorn on any given day or night that you know they are not busy.
Occasionally you have to get really personal to help somebody feel special. Think about the things that are important to them, and act accordingly. Homemade surprises are the best. Bake some treats for them and deliver them yourself. Sometimes getting personal can be a light touch or a hug. It does not have to be difficult or elaborate, or even expensive, to help a friend feel special. Hold your loved ones close and be attentive to their needs.
No, not an email. Very rarely to people receive written mail anymore. This little touch can make your friend feel special because it takes thought and effort. They will know that you are thinking of them and everybody loves to get a pleasant surprise amongst a pile of junk mail and dreaded bills!
While it may seem insignificant to you, just being there for somebody in any small way that are able to can really affect the other person in positive ways.